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Fawzia Begum Gul Shah
Fawzia Begum Gul Shah
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Fawzia Begum Gul Shah
Fawzia Begum Gul Shah
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The path I am is the most painful.. The Divine loves you yet kills you.. makes you feel you are nobody yet i am everything. Its a mystery which cannot be solved by any. Its a journey which is just my journey.. yet I am happy to have this beautiful pain with me as this is my pain yet my happiness, . This is the LIFE and this will be my DEATH too. Yet I have to love as long as I live.. This is the new beginning of another journey.
Love your Death until You come to the end of this journey. Embrace the Death, Trust in your death.. Live your death.. No matter what ??
Is this beautiful.. !! The higher the acceptance of enlightenment.. higher the pain.. My heart is filled with emotions which is beyond the universe as my feelings cannot be held by the heaven or earth. Its a strange pain of happiness and bliss yet fear.. I live at the edge each day as I do not know the order of the Divine the next moment.
A new beginning " Death is your companion ".. Love him, be with him, yet he will be the reason for you to Die.. The gift given is Death, Death is your lover , Death is your companion, Death is your provider, Death is your protector ..Death is your Life now and Death will give you Death in the final..
A beginning of another journey of Love, passion and betrayal... The journey continues..
You come to a point where you feel you have tried to always be the person you are from within. You follow the path which is right and you thru out think you are protected. But you realise the path which is right and positive gives you a lot of pain and agony, as it is the most difficult path to be taken?
The wrong or the negative path is always fun and loads of happiness and laughter. You shed all your inhibitions, moral values and dishonesty, at the same time feel its the right or rather the in thing in todays modern society if you want to be in it. I wonder even if we decide to change our thoughts and do things which is against our consious .yet, want to be what a so called modern woman does " will that make us happy and content?" I would love to if it can change my state of mind as i too want to be happy and have a better state of mind, no emotions or feelings, no moral values, its like animals and satisfying your physical need for that very " moment". Its a thought, very hard to decide that we live in a society where the norms and values are not similar to what some of us think. But thou we have all the freedom to do what we please or makes us happy, i dont think that it would feel great the next morning to find oneself in a unknown/ or a so called friends bed. It would feel horrible and will not respect ourself for being a easy lay for any man and sick of our body.
One such experience would make a person or me more depressed as most of us are too sensitive because all my life i have thrived to be a amazing wife or a girlfriend but realised that each time i have chosen the wrong man at the right time. Making " love" with passion and emotion is different from having " sex". Its not that a woman has no physical needs. but the more you encounter situations of feeling used you begin to feel lost and disinterested in life as there is no respect, or your emotions are not valued. It feels that one does not fit anywhere in this society. No man needs honesty, loyalty, sincerety or emotions. The moment you are a person with these feelings a man senses "danger". The requirement or the need is for a free sex, as friends, with no attachment or commitment. Its in a simple way "free sex" where if you visit a brothel one will have to pay, rather preach a new living called "modernism" , which is misinterpreted according to what suits the other , yet not feel guilty.
It will definetely give momentary pleasure but then , a person who involves in such activity is worst than a sex worker as "God" will support a down trodden woman as she does that for her living or been forced into such activitys against her will. A woman or a man who does it for his/ her pleasure is considered worst than a animal as it is not civilised and cultured. Such sins are not forgiven and one is answerable to "GOD". Thou we are supposed to be non judgemental, yet we should not hurt any one of the either gender as it is a crime committed intentionally. Life is not about living like animals, we are civilised and live in a society where one needs to respect the other persons view.
The more you come accross such experiences you begin to lose trust in human and turn towards the divine power to protect you from such experiences and guide you towards the right path.
The destination is never as important as the journey. In these very difficult times, we are all looking for answers and looking for ourselves. Beyond the Secret holds the tools to take the idea of what is preached, and puts it into practice in everyday life.
That is the time we need to think positive." Power of Positive Thinking" and "The Power of the Divine " is more than just a mantra, it\'s a way of life. It\'s a mind-body awakening, an answer to all of those questions and the path laid before us. All we need to do is unlock the gift that we all have inside and take that journey.
It teaches us never hurt anyone of the either gender, respect each others view in life and not give any false/ pretentious promises which is for the moment. As you will be paying for your sins .. as " Mother" will make sure that one pays for every sin commited..
One needs to trust in the divine power tremendously , no matter what you go thru."MOTHER" is always there to protect you, guide you and loves you unconditionally. As every relation is not permanent, the only relation which will last until the end is your connection with the "Divine power".. and "Positive Thinking"..
In my view, or according to me, this is what is Gods will, that pain and sorrow is a part of our knowledge given to us free of cost by nature, we are each given a book by nature which is our book of journey in this lifetime. This is for us to learn and understand the good or the bad that suits us. We adapt our lifestyle based on this book. This book is rich of knowledge, wisdom and insight .. which can be positive or negative. Again we are solely responsible for our acts..as that is our thoughts which leads us towards an act..and those thoughts are purely our true innerself..which is not not imposed by God.
God has given us the free will towards thoughts.....our thoughts are purely ours and none of that is imposed by anyone, not even God is responsible for those thoughts.
Good or Bad..
THIS IS US..
DIVINE OR EVIL..
Our thoughts leads us to the path towards enlightenment.. that is the light which we see, and often speak of .. thats the Divine path. The basic understanding or the foundation to begin this journey is our inner self. Our inner self is the beginning of all our lives destiny.
This can lead us to Divine Success or the road towards the dark tunnel where one can never see light. Again our step towards our inner self is First " Love yourself " as if you Love yourself, then you can love the others around you..it beautifies your mind and soul...This is where it is clear that happiness is purely based on our mindset.
Vindictive, jealousy, malicious, is the downfall of the envious
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the victory of the envied ..Whenever you are spoken the most or investigated the most
REMEMBER YOU ARE IMPORTANT.. IF YOU WERE NOT IMPORTANT THEN NONE WOULD WASTE THEIR PRECIOUS TIME ON YOU. AS EVERY MOMENT IS WORTH OUR SHORT TIME ON EARTH.
.And lets utilize this free time in something more constructive and beneficial -- towards our well being.. and the betterment of our fellow beings..and fulfill our goals and aspirations.
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Fawzia Gulsha
Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach - "Even a stopped clock is right twice a day."
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To be a leader you have to lead yourself first. This is one of the trademarks of true Leaders. Every time you’re with someone who manages himself/herself perfectly under any circumstances you know you’re talking someone big. It’s hard to resist responding back to a bad intentioned comment, or rude words, and it’s even harder if you’re in a position to lead, where it’s easy to be prey of your ego.
It’s difficult to connect with your values and elaborate the most appropiate answer to respond in certain circumstances. But you have to do that in order to become a great leader. Read that again: to become a GREAT LEADER. I’m not talking about being a leader only, but a great one. The higher your expectations, the higher you’ll get.
I’ll share with you a couple of things you should manage in the best possible way in order to lead yourself.
Sometimes it’s Ok to show your emotions and express your feelings freely to let your team know who you are and how you feel. But there are times when not showing your emotions is the right thing to do. Specially when showing your emotions lowers your team morale or affects them badly.
The key is to think if showing your emotions will be good for your team or not. That means, you have to be “big enough” to consider your team before you consider yourself.
To become a great leader you need to manage your time. A day has only 24 hours, you can’t put anymore time in it. So, if you a have a really tight schedule, you should start considering to stop doing the less valuable things of your agenda, and passing that tasks to someone who can help you. The other way is simply stop doing the less important things in your life. Remember, a day has only 24 hours, you can’t strecht it. It’s fixed.
1. Commit yourself to wait at least a couple of seconds before responding to anything, in that way you will have a chance to not answer the first thing that comes up to your mind. And you will show “self-control”. This is specially useful in complex situations. 2. Take a look at your agenda and try to delegate, better yet,eliminate activities that suck up your time, and energy.
Don’t forget: To be a leader you have to lead yourself first.And by the way, I think it’s easier to juggle.
Be Alert, Be A Leader.