I am a soul returning close to the single authentic source threading the path of mysticism in the occurrence of a combined peace, joy, compassion or love. My agony between competing forces of light and dark, and positive marked division between the material kingdom, the administration of evil forces, and the higher spiritual kingdom from which it is divided. My words may seem to confuse and unclear, at the same time over-simplified and full of subtle meanings hidden from the naive.

My words are very easy to know, and easy to practice; but there is none in the world who can recognize and capable of practice them.
A dimensional fluctuation amid one construction of reality to another. I am crossed a path by sin, shame, remorse.
Repentance, awareness of lower-self attachments and dervishes giving up the thoughts and behaviors is now the necessity for reinstating unity and grace.
Mortification and dejection, defamation and allegation, abundant lives breathed, none could grasp me and in this way my voyage demands further obligation.
My ancestry and individuality is of free spirit. I question if this is a joy. The joy is of mankind shuns and Almighty embraces. That is the joy in the departure from the material release. (2009)


"Religious truth is the inner meaning of the law revealed in the heart of the Sufi by the Divine Light."

In terms of the Ultimate Reality or Truth, I have now come to reject the very basis of "manifestation" and in doing so all systems of thought and knowledge in reference to it is invalid

According to my experience there is nothing to understand about enlightenment as enlightenment is the way of enlightenment itself.

The subject of enlightenment – or anything else – did not interest me all my life ………….. My life-story can be separated into the three catastrophe parts. The first part of my life with Human experience. The second part of my life experienced a Bodily experience with a discontinuity from my human life with the ongoing bodily experience – though not absence – of thought. But I lost all connectivity with the acquired knowledge and memories, and I was made to re-learn everything, as if the slate had been wiped clean.

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Saturday, June 4, 2011

THE JOURNEY

Sufism is seen as a spiritual path of self knowledge that leads to a knowledge of the Divine. God is Love and can be seen by the "eye of the kernel", not by logical intellectual knowledge or theological  customs. The outward form called religion is a mere shell which hides the core inside it. The kernel is the Truth, the Sufi's goal on his spiritual embarkment.

The various stages (Maqamat) and states (Ahwal) begins with repentance when the seeker finds the Spiritual Teacher. The teacher (Sheikh, Pir) accepts the seeker as his disciple by the ritual of initiation when he imparts his grace, gives him strict ascetic rules to follow and a certain secret word for meditation. The disciple's path is one of continuous struggle against his lower soul. He passes through a number of spiritual stations and states clearly defined by various Sufi teaching.

The different Sufi stations: 

1. detachment from the world (zuhd).

 2. patience (sabr).

 3. gratitude (shukr), for whatever God gives.

 4. love (hubb). 

5. pleasure (rida) with whatever God desires.

However linked to these stations are specific moods / emotions (ahwal) such as fear and hope, sadness and joy, yearning and intimacy, granted to the pilgrim by God's grace for a while with the goal of leading him to on to Ma'rifah (esoteric knowledge), Mahabbah (Love) and to the ultimate goal which is annihilation of personality and unity with God.

Beyond this stage the Sufi then enters the state of Baqa', or perseverance in God. He returns from his state of intoxication (Sukr) back into the world completely transformed - reborn.

The Sufi path has three ways: Makhafah, the way of fear of God leading to purification. Mahabbah, the way of love leading to sacrifice. Ma'rifah, the way of intuitive knowledge leading to Enlightenment.

Gulshaa Begum
Divine Abode

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Sunday, May 15, 2011

International Sufi Festival India 2011

We are delighted to inform you that our event - International Sufi Festival India - has just been published on MyRajasthanInfo.com. The event can now be enjoyed by all future visitors to the website, to check it out just click the link below:

http://www.mydestination.com/rajasthan/events/7393896/international-sufi-festival-india-21-october-2011

For your cordiality, trust & whole-hearted support,

Thanking You

Sincerely,

Gulshaa Begum

Founder- President

 


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Friday, April 29, 2011

Spirituality

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Activities - Divine Abode

Interfaith Foundation in collaboration with Temple of Understanding India held an interfaith conference in New Delhi. Dr. Karan Singh - Hon"ble Rajya Sabha MP & the President of the Temple of Understanding chaired in the meeting. There were present varied delegates from different organisations and concerns on interfaith peace and unity was the topic of the conference. The measures to be taken for taking the mission forward and how we can put forward all religious origin together.

Divine Abode the organisers of the forthcoming International Sufi fete India at picholia, Pushkar- Ajmer, Rajasthan is elated to be partnered with Marwah Studios as official Media Partners for the festival.
The President of Marwah Studios Sandeep Marwah has been highly cooperative and has led support to the cause of Global Peace & oneness by being  the official Media's partner.


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Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Morality

Moral or ethical behaviour is widely taken to mean behaviour that
harmonizes to some code of conduct, which is held to be authentic in
matters of rightand wrong. The set of doctrines that define what is
rightand
wrong being called 'morality' or 'ethics'. Ethics are also the name
given to the part of philosophy concerned with the methodical study of
what is right or wrong. Religion obviously plays a significant part in
many people's moral perceptions, and for those with a religious faith
moral behaviour is often seen as being needed, both as an act of
dutifulness to God's wishes and as a necessity for spiritual
development.

The purpose of Morality is to lead people to behave in accordance with
the wishes of a divine authority.To lead people to behave in a way
that benefit society at large rather than their own narrow self
interest.
To lead people to control their desires and aversions in the belief
that this will result in a more satisfying, rewarding and contented
way of life.

Morality is evidently significant in regulating and greasing social
interaction, in checking our selfish conduct in the interests of the
larger community. Indeed, there are those who affirm that without
society, there would be no need for morality. However, this view
oversight any improvement in personal well since coming from
controlling and fixing one's own behaviour. Moral codes differ over
time and between places, and there are many cases of things being
considered moral by one society and immoral by another. Not all codes
of conduct are moral. There are etiquettes, regulations, laws and
religious observances, all of which seek to order our lives, but
breaches of which might not be thought morally wrong. This wide
divergence of moral codes has led to a view that all morality is
relative, that there is no universal ideal standard, which can be
used to judge what is better or worse. Moral principles should explain
why a particular rule is moral, help resolve conflicts between moral
rules, and help us determine which moral rule should be used.

In practice most people moral principles appear to be a mixture of
innate feelings, and beliefs inculcated by their culture. These values
are internalised and express themselves through a person's conscience
- the faculty that distinguishes whether one's actions are right or
wrong. Very often people find it difficult to make such decisions.
Just like aesthetic judgements about what is beautiful or ugly, a
person's decisions about what is moral come to the mind automatically.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011

Research On Family

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Research On Family - Annual Report 2010 - 2011

Sincerely,

Begum Gulsha Fawzia

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Workshop Conducted - Rai Foundation

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May Bliss and love free your soul and guide your divine being back to God 

Sincerely,

Begum Gulsha Fawzia

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Wednesday, March 30, 2011

In the game of love, there are no victims, only volunteers."

Queen_bee

Women are sketched as gold diggers in the quest of a precise breed of men for financial gain. The women are portrayed as vultures wanting impassioned relations for material gain. This refers to bi-lateral trade, investment and mutually beneficial relations. Al thou this does not apply to all women but a different breed of them.
They are the one USING these fine men  for political, personal  and monetary gain. Women who swindle men on-line are often doing it for monetary gain or profit. ...Men's sexual desire for women can be misused by women for financial gain, reducing men to an animistic height in the operation. And they fail to see their own truth within themselves and constantly see their way of thought in other women around them. They fail to see the inner truth of themselves and often pot ray themselves to be the crystal clean women. Next time anyone accuses you to be a gold digger , do not react and simply forgive them as they are sick themselves and fail to see a doctor to heal their disease ... These mercenary's and Queen Bees are definitely not emotional as to them emotions do not rule here.. Its the MIND v/s BODY  . (http://www.facebook.com/note.php?created&&note_id=10150182317925312&id=80816334495)

Increasingly, women are using the Net and online dating websites... Men use women for little other than sexual satisfaction, and women use men almost entirely formonetary or social gain. The guys are just mostly morally bad while the majority the women are black widows - manipulating and using men formonetary and personal gain. I hope that says something more about our society. Take this Article  as a warning: there are women out there who use men. Although you almost never hear about it in the conventional media, men should be aware that there is a relevant percentage of women out there who have no ethical conflict whatsoever with the idea of using men for prefers while prompting them with false hopes of intimacy. 

Mercenary v/s Queen Bee
What differentiates The Mercenary from The Queen Bee, is that there is, no matter how hollow and insignificant it may be, some tangible form of reciprocity given for the treats that she gets. She does get intimate with her victim. Although once a bond has been signed, i.e., marriage, live in relationship or a compromise treaty, the frequency of the intimacy often declines substantially. 

The Mercenary varies from The Queen Bee ... The QUEEN BEE in that once she has settled on  her mark -- a man who will supply her with intensified social status, unlimited financial reserves, and a life of recreation -- she will then give her body to him as her part of the deal -- but not her heart. She must, however, persuade her victim that she has fallen in love with him. That's a critical part of the con. These are the kind of women who consider themselves to be of high status family, yield to  bitch and go for the social coffees in five stars in search of new victims, loitering around jewellery stores, discussions on their costly purchases, their evergreen attractiveness, their boyfriends, diamonds and very spiteful, conspiring and conniving just to make their position as the famous breed coming from Royalties of Ancient India. They seldom look within themselves and invariably look at others as worthless and inferior, while they forget they are the ones jeered by all behind their backward. This is the HIGH SOCIETY Madam Queen Bee.

As these Queen Bees get aged, they still prefer to live in their palatial  illusion sphere as Marilyn Monroe...The Queen Bee, on the other hand, usually has a mass of several varied men who provide her with goods and services and to whom she never gives more than a peck on the cheek. Her guy pals get to be her butler, banker, her god father... so on and on ....the list is endless......  but none of them ever get to have a real bond with her.

This stormy seductress plays dumb and acts as if she has no idea that the diverse guys in her orbit are seduced to her, and are waiting and wishing that she will choose them to be her boyfriend. If she's ever asked about her relationship with one of them, she'll say, "Oh, he's a really great friend." , this means: "He's one of my stooges." The ill thing is that this is all flawlessly fine with Ms. "Me." As far as she's apprehensive, they're all lucky enough to be spending time with her, and they deserve to pay for the privilege. They give. She takes. That's the relationship. She keeps 'em coming back for more by being as warm and sweet as sun-drenched beloved on the outside. However, her heart is as cold as a week old corpse. One could bicker that these guys who follow her bidding like bound servants deserve what they get.  "In the game of love, there are no victims, only volunteers."

Her Looks Fool You

The problem is that these fellows have allowed themselves to be hypnotized into believing that their investment in time, money and energy is winning them points and helping to build the Queen Bee's romantic Interest Level in them. However, the opposite is true. The more wheels these guys jump through, the more the chortles with ridicule for them. Some of them wake up and save themselves from more abuse after only a few months of slavery. Others go on for years in a state of ignorance and denial like living zombies.

The way to deal with this dangerous darling is never to be involved with her to begin with, no matter how beautiful she may be. The male sex drive is straightforward and honest. Men are visual. The hot-blooded sexual comeback to the sight of a good-looking young woman has been hard-wired into the masculine brain gratitude to millions of years of progress -- the average guy can no more stop eyeing, desiring and begging to merge than he can stop eating or sleeping. what about women? Just what do they find attractive about men? Read any typical survey and you'll be informed that what really turns them on is a sense of hilarity, reliance, thoughtfulness of others, etc., In other words, according to women, all you have to do is to be a nice guy, and they'll come crawling.

Time for Reality Check 

Never listen to what a woman says -- always pay attention to what she practically does preferably. The two are quite frequently worlds apart, because women are geniuses at self-deceit and equally skilled at lying to themselves about their own behavior.

Cross-cultural confirmation from different societies constantly reveals that what women really want from men are profitable supplies. These women would be significantly more willing to enter relationships with the more expensively-attired males regardless of the man's physical appearance.

To a woman, and temptation is simple: The color green is very good-looking. And to this the men magnify their status (implying greater earning power)  leading to increased sexual activity.

Thus men were forced to rely on such attraction tactics as driving expensive cars, bragging about performances, and accenting the present or future earning power, while females, on the other hand, packaged themselves  with make-up, jewel, hairstyles, and shape-revealing clothing.

Queen Bee ... the Wealthy woman who surrounds herself with an entourage of young slaves ...She is the Queen of Hearts.

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Queen Bee Lyrics by 
Barbra Streisand and Kris Kristofferson

The black, black widow is sittin' in the middle of the web, 
it's the fly she seeks.
You may be her lover but you never will recover, 'cause 
she ain't had a bite for weeks. 
You think your the same, 'cause you got the same name, 
but the widow has a mobile home.
Remember what I told you, she got eight arms to hold you, 
and she's never gonna let you roam.
She'll tuck into bed and truck on your head, then she'll
wrap you as a midnight snack.
So if you see a spider, don't you sidle up beside her
Why'd you think the widow's wearin' black?

Queen bee, baby
Pray that you may be left on your own, uh huh
Nothin' she'll give you, gonna outlive you, uh, uh, uh
But the queen bee's never gonna be alone. Uh huh.
Long before Atlantis there has been a praying mantis and 
you knows why he's on his knees.
He may have religion but he's just a sittin' pigeon if a 
woman even starts to tease.
He won't even quibble if she has a little nibble on his neck, 
what a way to go. 
And now you done and torn it! You been messin' with a 
hornet, she's a blue-blooded wasp, you know.
And just as you do it, she'll inject you with a fluid that you 
ain't even got but none.
You're the meat on the plate, not even first rate, she's 
gonna feed you to her seventh son.

Just like the Queen Bee, baby
Pray that you may be left on your own, 
Nothin' she'll give you, gonna outlive you, uh, uh, uh
But the queen bee's never gonna be alone. Uh huh. Uh huh.

So, in conclusion, it's an optical illusion, if you think that 
we're the weaker race.
Men got the muscle, but the ladies got the hustle, and the 
truth is staring in your face.
The mother bear stalks, and the queen of the hawks, is the 
one who brings home the bread.
The lion that is regal, and the bald headed eagle, need a 
woman just to keep them fed.
But come the evenin', we're like Adam and his Eve, inside 
the garden. Hear the serpent's sound?
It's so frustratin', when you're really into matin', and there 
ain't a lovin' man around.

Whoever wrote this story 
(it's so frustratin', when you're really 
into matin', and there ain't a lovin' man around)
Throw out the glory 
(it's so frustratin', when you're really 
into matin', and there ain't a lovin' man around)
Bring in the men (give me them and I'll swing)
Write me a sequel
Give me an equal, oh, oh, oh
And I'll give that man
I said I'm give that lovin' man
I said I'm gonna give that lovin' man
I'm gonna give him that lovin' sting! Zap!

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Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Sufis of Kashmir

For centuries the Hindus and Muslims in Kashmir have lived together. The Kashmiri Muslims have been influenced by the Hindus, and the Hindus have been influenced by the Muslims.

Kashmir is the only place in India where Muslims have surnames such as 'pandit' and 'bhat'. The Kashmiri Hindus and Muslims have a distinctive culture and way of living. Even the sufis of Kashmir are of a special type.

How Sufism came to Kashmir is a long story. The famous sufis of Kashmir are Sayyid Bulbul Shah, Sayyid Ali Hamdani, and Mir Mohammad Hamdani. It is claimed that Hindu thought and religion greatly influenced Kashmiri sufis. The result was that Kashmir produced sufis with a different outlook. Some people call these sufis "Muslim risi:s''.

Among the "Muslim risi:s", the most famous risi: is Sheikh-nur-ud-din. Out of love and veneration, the Hindus and Muslims call him Nandirishi. The Kashmiri Pandits also call him Sahzanand.

The shrine of Nandrishi is locat.ed in Chrar-e-Sharief. This is a small village about five miles from Nagam. Both Hindus and Muslims go to this shrine to offer flowers.

It is difficult to say when Nandrishi was actually born. It is said by some that he was born in 1377 in a village called Kaimuh. People also say that Lalded nursed Nandrishi as a child. In addition to this, there are many other stories about him that are popular in Kashmir. Some of these stories must be true, while others must have been created by the people.

Many stories are also told about Nandrishi's parents. Some say that his parents made a living by stealing and robbing, which made Nandrishi unhappy. But others say that his father, Salar Sanz, was a pious man.

It is said that Nandrishi left home when he was thirty years old He meditated for twelve years inside a cave. This cave was in a forest where he could not get much to eat. When Nandrishi completed his meditation, he spread his ideas among the Kashmiris.

Many Kashmiri Hindus and Muslims became Nandrishi's disciples. They renounced the world and took shelter in a ziya:rath. They gave up eating meat and observed celibacy. They devoted themselves completely to meditation in their ziya:rath. On their death, these rishis were buried in their ziya:ratsi. Kashmiris have great reverence for these ziya:ratsi and devotedly go there to place flowers on the graves. These shrines are still found in Kashmir. Two well- known shrines are in Aishmukam and Anantnag. Janakrishi lived in Aishmukam, and Rishmol lived in Anantnag. There are three famous shrines in Srinagar. Batmal, Thagbab Sahib, and RishiPir lived in these.

Out of all these rishis, Nandrishi is considered outstanding. That is why his sayings are uttered by Kashmiris with great reverence.

The Excerpts taken from:
An Introduction to Spoken Kashmiri
by Braj B. Kachru
Department of Linguistics, University of Illinois
Urbana, Illinois 61801 U.S.A.
June, 1973

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Kashmir Sufism Society for designating me as the International Co coordinator

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I wish to take this opportunity, to express thanks to Kashmir Sufism Society for designating me as the International Co coordinator, and wish to express my very deep appreciation of their attitude toward me, and toward the force, the direction of my divine mission. With all my sincere devotions, I will give my time and all of my efforts to the betterment and represent the organisation at every forum with the single mindedness merely towards the good for the cause. I wish to work zealously with loyal service to what is conceived to be the interest of the common mission. Nevertheless, I firmly believe to give my best towards the organisation and spreading the message of peace and oneness.

 

 Again thanking  for having appointed me, with much gratitude and great respect

 

Sincerely

 

Gulsha Fawzia Begum

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Thursday, March 24, 2011

Fatal Attraction

Subsequently, eventually Mr. Right arrived alongside his white horse,
reached out to embrace you for ever , however he forgot to take off
his wedding ring first? Don't you just hate it when that happens? So
why haven't you two galloped off into the twilight yet? Well, I think
we all know why, or at least it would be easy to guess. When will one
ever learn....... TODAY? That's true, I'm proceeding to end all of
your perplexity and suffering right now.

Are you loaded in your pouch, or a lot? It doesn't matter either way
because when he met you. He wasn't looking for monetary stability. He
finds that at home. you're a cheap thrill, and that's the sad truth.
So please be smart and don't think that you can buy his heart, it's
already paid for, and you are not the one holding the receipt!

The Mrs. Right/ The Crazy one Arrival;.............Are you Crazy by
any chance here ??????  Perhaps, and if your not now, you will be
before this wild-n-crazy roller coaster lets you off, but one thing's
for sure-SHE ISN'T. That's true she, the Mrs. Right is not, psychotic,
commanding, insane, bonkers or lunatic. This may sound specific but
Mrs. Right is none of those things! A married man knows that by
telling you his wife has Serious problems you'll be more likely to
think that he is entirely in the right for cheating. Apart from that
who wouldn't cheat on a crazy woman? He is also sharp enough to know
that we as women, bend to be on the super supportive side, and we want
to help anyone we can. So before you tie on your wrap and fly in order
to rescue the man recognize, if he desired to be saved, he'd get a
divorce.

I am much more prettier than Mrs. Right.........Indeed you are the
most beautiful one of all-but who cares! You can be taller, skinnier,
or prettier. The reality is he isn't  taking that into notice when
trying to decide if he should leave her as in any case, he isn't
considering in the first place. You may have seen a snapshot of her
and sized her up, or even threw up after taking one look at her. It
all means zilch! Even if the concept of him fondling her THAT  night,
makes you want to sleep with him out of unadulterated sympathy, PLEASE
DON'T AS YOU ARE A FOOL ! Think back, to a guy, it all looks good with
his eye's shut and obviously Lord Nice has one hell of a FANTASY. Thus
you experience the rest. If they have kids together you can definitely
forget it. He has three families now; his direct family, her family
and the family they made. No man is going to let down that many
persons for pretty you. So go forward tear down the striker barrier,
they'll reinstate again. Since you're nothing more than a passing
ornate, overtake on him, because no matter how much of a home wrecker
you are, you are entitled to a family of your own.

You swallow the crumbs because you keep hoping that if you stick with
him long enough that he will finally love you more than his wife and
leave her for you. What I see is that you aren't facing reality. You
are simply throwing a tantrum. You are stamping your feet, holding
your breath until you're dejected, and not giving up, even if it kills
you. You want what you want, and you aren't listening to what he's
telling you--that he is never going to leave his wife.

It hurts emotionally to have sex with a man you love, if the
commitment and emotional love aren't there from him. Women NEED that
emotional love and assurance ...especially when in a relationship.
That is just the way women are made up if they haven't unconditionally
paralysed their own senses. It is especially true when you are dating
a married man. The addiction to a married man is amazingly powerful.
well they say the only way to find out if a married man is going to
leave his wife is to break up with him and if he loves you enough then
he will leave her ,but if he does not it only means he had no
intentions ever of leaving his wife and was just having some fun. When
the time to confront arrives you are a NOBODY.....

When you decide to get out of the Ballgame do not forget to halt him
by the dry cleaners on your way home because that's exactly where he's
going if he gets a divorce! It's cheaper to Retain-her and so, he
will.   Send him back home pack in', you're not going to number a
single run in this match, because no one's on your side. It's a sad
fact that when two people take a vow of marriage one may be more
committed than the other at some point, although one spouse looks for
flaws in the marriage and finds an easy way out.......  So don't fall
for his plays, let him go home and perform by himself.

He CAN leave his wife, but chooses not to. If all he arrives up with
is a daft reason then he's not great at lying either. Hesitating,
uncertain, I think he is just gaping for something on the side that
will never require commitment. He's not wavering, since he has not
chosen to do so. . . . He's just waiting for you to give in with his
smooth lines.

There are many things in life whom we want, but can't have. He's one
of them. The reality is that you will never heal up to the time of you
giving up. He is never going to give you the love that you crave. Each
time you take up in fairy yarns, hoping that he's going to dump her
and prefer you. You need to become very strong with yourself.
Recognise that your wish origins from the little girl inside yourself.
Tell the little girl that she is never going to get what she wants
from him. Then tell her she has an option: either embrace the
fragments forever and give up wishing for more or move on.

You are very likely not the first, and certainly won't be the last. So
don't ruin any more time on this non-achiever! He probably says 'I
love you' in the reflection every morning. There is a man out there
who will truly love, esteem and nurture you. Go and look for him.
GOODLUCK

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Monday, March 21, 2011

Friends Forever

FRIENDSHIP is like a tree. It is not MEASURED on how TALL it could be, but is on how DEEP the ROOTS have grown.


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Sunday, March 20, 2011

What is it about a married man that is so irresistible?

What is it about a married man that is so irresistible?

It must be something because so many women fall for it. Just this week I encountered two women who have slipped into the trap of fatal attraction for a married man. It is dangerous territory and I do not recommend that anyone go there. I speak from experience having invested part of my life in a relationship with a married man. Iam not writing about this subject to lecture or be judgmental or even to speak from my soapbox about what I know that you don't. My intention is to expose the underhanded tactics, even if unintentional, of men and the naiveté of women that permits these relationships to flower.

What is it about women that make them susceptible to the charm and attraction of an unavailable man?

The unavailable man is very attractive to women who do not want to be controlled by a man. He can provide sporadic attention, sex, usually at regular intervals, definitely advice even when you don't ask for it and gifts. You don't have to live with him,which means no snoring, picking up after him, and usually freedom to comeand go as you please. The disadvantages include limited spontaneity,lack of availability on weekends and holidays and never being his number one priority.

This is not to say that men do not fall for married women. I am 
certain that the statistics will support that almost as many single men fall for married women but the dynamic between themis much different than that of the single woman and the married man. Obviously, I have more experience with the married man syndrome.

Women in general are used to getting seconds.

What I mean by that is that women choose to settle for less than 
what they want. Okay, I expect outrage from most of you who are 
reading this but hear me out, please. In this country, men have the power. Look around you, how many women president's do we have? How many in the Senate, Congress, CEO's of Fortune 500 companies? How many women make as much money as men do? Consider teaching and nursing, two professions primarily occupied by women, what percentage of men are in the profession and what percentage ofthose are in charge? How many men choose to stay home with thchildren while their wives work and support the family? You get the idea. Granted there are many more women in positions of authority, in medicine, the law, entrepreneurs,real estate, finance, business than ever before, but if you are going to be honest with yourself, it's still a man's world. This is okay.

We can live with the fact that men run the world, because women run relationships.

Women, you really are in charge of relationship even if you don't know it. You just need to raise the bar a little on what youexpect from your relationship. What I mean by women being used to settling is they don't ask. Let me give you an example. A woman friend of mine works for a big company; she uses her own computer and pays for her own Internet access even though the majority of her computer usage is for her work activities. She has asked the men who run the company to be reimbursed for the cost of her computer andInternet access and has been denied. Her first inclination was to accept this, until she realized: How many men who use a computer in their job, use their own computer let alone pay for their Internet access? Men expect to be provided with the tools that they need to do their job, women provide their own tools and accept it when they are denied reimbursement. Where does this willingness to be used originate? I think that it originated when women first began to invade the workplace. Women weren't greeted with open arms when they first arrived in the workplace. In order to be accepted, they worked twice as hard, longer hours, tolerated abuse in many ways that a man never would and were eager to please, seeking approval and acceptance by over responding. (Actually, women were welcomed in the workplace during World War II but only because men weren't available. When the men returned, the women were expected to go back home where they belonged.)

Much of women's acceptance of second-class treatment is their own fault, because they don't even ask for it to be different.

Okay, I am a little off the subject of married men, but let me follow this through to the connection. Let's look at a wife. The majority of wives work these days, they also are the primary childcare provider, and most of them do most of the housework and laundry and cooking and shopping as well. They are also expected by their husbands to be sexy and ready for a quickie at the drop of his pants. Women do all this because they put these standards on themselves. They still expect that they have to do more and do it better because they are women. So where does a woman cut back? Usually it is in paying attention to her husband's primary needs. A man needs sex and most married men will tell you that the amount of sex that they get dwindles after marriage and especially after children. In addition, the amount of time that a woman has to devote to the nurturing, acceptance, approval and attention to her husband decreases proportionately with the addition of children, job responsibilities and a bigger house.

So this leads us to the plight of the married man.

Who is the married man? First of all he is a man. Men are results oriented. Men have a lot of testosterone. They aren't good at deciphering what women want, especially their own wives.The married man used to run his own life. He came and went as he pleased; he watched or played baseball whenever he wanted. He lived his own lifestyle. He could have his woman withhim whenever hewanted and she would pay all of her attention to him. Now he is marriedwith a couple of kids, a mortgage, a job he has because it pays themost, not because he loves it so much and a wife who used to cater to him exclusively who now has to divide her time between him, the kids, the house and usually her job. There was a commercial on TV not too long ago that shows a man thinking about his studly single days and how sexy he was in those days, with a child in a stroller. He is playing with his child and shopping in the grocery store and a woman is talking to her friend who comments he doesn't even know how much more attractive he is now than he was when he was a stud.

Men are pretty unconscious about what makes them attractive.

According to most women it is not their looks that make them attractive, it is who they are and how they produce in the world. So this married man goes to work and comes home and goes back to work the next day. At work there is this woman. She is single, attractive, smart, capable, speaks his language andsomeone who has time to pay attention to him. It starts as an innocent flirtation. What goes through his mind is something like "Let's see if I still have it!" so he starts flirting just to see what happens. Not a surprise, she responds to the flirting by flirting back.

This is the beginning of the affair.

In his mind he is flattered, it is fun, and exciting and just a little bit naughty. What could be more harmless? I'm married.I'm safe. I can just have a little fun with this. So it continues.He thinks he can just experiment a little. Let's see how charming and creative I can be. Let's see if I can get this woman to fall for me. In his mind it is not cheating. He hasn't done anything wrong. In the beginning, he even tells his wife about this woman. He tells her about how smart she is or about some accomplishment, usuallywhat made him notice her in the firstplace. Wives usually miss the first clues. The thought of the effect of his harmless flirtation onthe single woman does not even enter his consciousness. So the harmless flirtation continues. It makes the married man feel good. He is happier at home and everything seems hunky dory. He tells the woman his wife doesn't understand him, she doesn't have time for him, or she just is cruel to him and the other woman becomes his confidant and starts to believe that he really has no choice in the matter. He needs her because his wife is so ... whatever.

He now has both a wife and family and a woman on the side.

Recognize that this process may take several years and several different women before anything actually happens in the way of an affair. After several years of living a separate life from his wife while they live under the same roof, a married man is ready for a real affair. The reality is that an affair will occur whether it is an emotional or physical affair or even a cyber affair. No matter which way it goes, what occurs takes away from the married relationship.

What is true about the woman who gets involved with a married man is that she is looking for attention and affection.

Most likely she is not looking for a married man with whom she is plotting to have an affair. There are a few predatory women out there who do just that but the majority of affairs start out naively. She is likely to have been previously hurt in a relationship. She may or may not know that the man is married. What occurs first is she recognizes that he is paying attention to her. He may just listen to her. It may just be a momentary encounter where their eyes meet and a connection is made. They may be working together on a project and either of them may distinguishthemselves in some way. What initially happens is likely to be chemistry. What happens after that varies, however, it usually follows this pattern.

When the woman discovers that he is married, she will make it clear that she doesn't have relationships with married men.

That is the signal for the man to go into conquest mode.

He will pursue her possibly for years because he enjoys the chase. She will continue to refuse his advances as long as she cantolerate it or until he catches her at a weak and vulnerable moment. If she has a good relationship in her life, chances areshe can outlast him, but if she is single, available or married and unhappy, she will eventually succumb. Why? Because the man is so charming, heis wonderful, he is a knight in shining armor, he is a hero, he is this wonderful dedicated family man who is wonderful with his children and attentive to his wife. So the woman asks herself what is she doing?

She continues to say no and the more she says no, the more 
aggressive and charming and attentive he gets. This is the ultimate male challenge, to win over a woman who is saying no even though he knows she really is attracted to him.

A married man will work harder than any available man to make a 
woman fall in love with him.

He will be more charming, loving, attentive and wonderful than a woman can imagine that any man can be. So what happens next is this woman who finally surrenders to her feelings for this man, asks him to leave his wife for her. The response from him will almost inevitably be one of two, but I'm married and I'll neverleave my wife or yes, I'll leave my wife, but not yet (she's not ready,my children are too young, I can't afford it yet, my mother won't approve etc.) Initially the woman will respond with anger. "If you love your wife what are you doing with me?" Here is the clincher that finally hooks the woman, he is committed to his wife and the woman buys into his honorable dedication to his wife and thinks if only I could have a man who loves me like that.

It is at this point in their relationship that the woman's final act of settling may occur.

Either she will end it and go off to nurse her broken heart, wondering how he could have been so wonderful and such a heel atthe same time, or she will continue the affair and settle forbeing the other woman in his life. Either way the woman is damaged. The man will go back to his wife who was either completely unaware of the romantic drama or who also chooses to settle by living in denial of his infidelity. Then life goes on.

The other woman plays a significant part in the perpetuation of this man's marriage.

She makes it tolerable for him to remain in an intolerable situation. She makes it possible for him to remain in a marriage that doesn't satisfy him. That marriage situation can range from boredom to outright contempt, but a man won't leave his marriage until his wife has dismissed him, either consciously or unconsciously. She makes it possible for him to deny that there is anything missing in his relationship with his wife. Therefore, the wife wins, if you can call it winning to stay ina relationship with a cheating man.

The purpose in discussing this at all is to emphasize the fact that women settle and men will cheat because they can. So, women, if you want your man to be faithful, you must pay attention and never settle for less than what you want no matter what the cost.

The essence of marriage is commitment. Why get married if you are not willing to commit to loving someone exclusively? The way that I see it, you don't have to get married to be together, so why do it if you don't mean it? I was married for 23 years and was strongly in favor of the concept of a renewable marriage license, similar tohow one renews a driver's license. The point of that beingthat at least very 3 or 4 years people who were married to each otherwould have to take a look at whether they still wanted to be with their spouse. If people were honest about their feelings, it certainly would take a chunk out of the 50% divorce rate.

On a more serious note, however, I really don't see any point in getting married unless you are marrying someone with whom youhave sexual chemistry that you love totally, that you trust implicitly, and that you would rather be with than anyone else who alsofeels the same about you. That feeling of total trust isvery rare and itneeds to be nurtured. It's also good if you have similar values and goals in life. If and when you find someone that meets all ofthe above standards, you probably couldn't imagine wanting to bewith anyone else. That spiritual bond can be so strong andso valid that it would be out of the realm of possibility to violate it.

It is impossible to ever have that kind of trust if you enter a relationship that originated with someone cheating.

So what happens to destroy that original bond? It is the woman'sjob to provide the appetite for pleasure and the direction for therelationship. This does not relieve men of any responsibility for it is their job to surrender to their woman's power and to produce results for her based on what she requests. So, in a relationship that is working the woman must continue to raise the bar for her man and believe in him. What does that mean? That she wants a bigger house, more expensive car, more children? Not necessarily although thosethings may be part of the picture. What it does mean is that she raises the standards of paying attention even when life is busy. It means that they make time for sex even when they don't have time. It meansthat each one of them stay vulnerable with each other even whenhe/she has done something that embarrasses them or is wrong.

In my marriage, I did it all wrong. I doubted his production, thought I could do things better than him and lost my ability to believe in him. When that happened, he quit producing for me and we spiraled downward into total mistrust of each other and unwillingness to be vulnerable. I kept settling for less than what I asked for and he kept producing only what I believed he could produce. I just didn't know any better.

It's a fragile bond that must be protected and as far as I can see what will protect the bond of love is a woman expressing her appetite that requests more than the man thinks he can produce and then even more vital is that she approves of him and believes in him until he produces it. The most significant element of maintaining a love relationship that works is that both parties must pay attention to each other and to what is happening in the relationship. Going to doubt or settling for less than what she wants is the beginning of the destruction of the delicate balance of the man/woman relationship. In this model of relationship, men and women are regarded as different entities with different needs. It relies on using the sex act as the metaphor for relationship, symbolizing men as producers and women as receivers.

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Suffering

Suffering is the effect of spiritual stubbornness and spiritual laziness to be trained to love - pain is a direct result from denial to love. All suffering is obsolete. Anyone who thinks of himself or any other person going through even the least amount of pain or suffering - is an ill condition and should urgently evaluate his entire attitude toward self and all creations.

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Saturday, March 19, 2011

Divine Love

If you dissolve your Ego in the fire of Divine Love, you grasp to act and be for the welfare of the complete Divine Creation. You discover to be in full harmony with God, the Creator, or whatever you may call it, The authority of all origins. They begin and the end.

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Friday, March 18, 2011

Love / Trust / Respect

Love: The natural feeling of affection one has for somebody else

Trust: The feeling of security that someone else will not hurt or harm you

Respect: The feeling of added value that someone provides to you or to the environment

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Thursday, March 3, 2011

12 Stages of Ascension...

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1. First level :

when the body drops density it commonly displays mutational symptoms of flu, headaches, diarrhea, rashes, muscle and joint aches

Most flu epidemics are actually Light epidemics!

Brain chemistry changes, right and left brain functions blend and the pituitary and pineal glands begin to change in size.

The DNA structure and chemical components begin to change and pick up extra hydrogen atoms and chemicals that the cells need to take undifferentiated higher Light and break it down into useable Light encodements for the DNA.

2. Second level - the etheric blueprint floods with light and releases karmic experiences, individuals may feel disoriented as well as experience of 'bouts of flu'. Â Many begin to question "why am I here".

Light in the etheric blueprint releases 4th dimensional structure and causes spins in the geometries of the emotional, mental and spiritual bodies. Â Change is rapid and many feel tired.

3. Third level - physical senses become much stronger. Your bodies not only absorb Light for its own change but also acts as a transducer - decoder of higher light energies to the planet as a whole.

The process of the in-breath is now irreversible, like an elastic band that has been stretched to maximum capacity, been let go of and will return to its natural state.

4. Fourth level - major changes are in the brain and its chemistry and electromagnetic energies - symptoms are often headaches, blurry vision, loss of hearing and sometimes chest pains.

Crystal regulators in the etheric body keep lines of light within the 5th dimensional blueprint from connecting again until you are ready.

Chest pains are due to the expanding energies of the heart as it opens to deeper levels.

Vision and hearing are being realigned to function differently. The mental body begins to wonder if it really is in charge and individuals get strong unexplainable and undeniable urges to follow spirit without hesitation.

Individuals may get lashes of telepathy, clairvoyance and nearly all begin to experience empathy. Â This is a time of feeling, of honoring and accepting and validating the emotional body and learning to control it.

5. Fifth level - the mental body decides to tune to spirit, dreams change and may become more 'lucid', you get feelings of de ja vu. Thought processes become non linear. Â Being's oscillate between knowing and doubt.

We realize the habitual nature of thinking and behavior and look at de-programming and re-programming to create the "I" we wish to be, not the "I" we thought we were from our interaction with parents, peers and society etc.

Change seems to be constant and we consciously begin to discern from our heart rather than judge from 'conditioned responses'.

6. Sixth level - we draw to us others for mutual support and stimulation of growth. Â We question what is real, our mental process and how we identify with others and ourselves changes rapidly.

Re-evaluation may be uncomfortable but we feel it must be done - we look at our relationships, jobs, home environment, living styles, it is a time of letting go, of moving on.
We change our friends, everything feels to be in a state of flux but we feel lighter, vaster, freer somehow. Â By this stage the Light quotient in our being is 33% - we feel as though we are opening up our inner senses and clairvoyance, clairaudience etc. seem normal and natural to us.

7. Seventh level - the heart chakra opens more, we become more 'real' with other emotions, we just have to be ourselves! We release blocks and old patterns - it is a time of great emotional clearing and great intensity as we seek to rid ourselves of emotional baggage.

We feel more in tune with each moment, feeling very present and flowing with life. Â Often old relationships end or change rapidly as Being's dig deep and honour their feelings - there is simply no room for denial on any level. We begin to lose emotional attachment to others.

Chest pains (angina) are more common as the heart continues to open its energy fields.

(Doing the Unified chakra meditation will assist in the heart opening).

Fear at this time is released as the energy fields of all the bodies are realigned through the heart and when aligned, fear drops away.

Pressure at the forehead or back or the head is due to the opening of the pituitary and pineal glands as they absorb more light, when these glands are fully open, activated and functioning at the highest level, aging and death cease.

When the pineal gland is fully open we experience multi-dimensionality yet duality seems to increase as we leave it behind.

Some days we feel connected and joyous, others we are in fear and caught up in survival issues.

Many wish to 'ascend' and leave the planet as we sense the very real possibility of ascension through our deepening connection with spirit.

As we learn to follow our joy, we may then want to 'save the planet' and have everyone follow their joy.

ALL are stages of progression and reflect our changing perception. Â Dietary wise, you feel to eat less, more light, live food -
many at this stage have ceased to eat meat, sugar and drink alcohol as they 'feel' the effects of these substances on the vibrational fields of the body.

8. Eighth level - we see the Master in all and purely wish to be of service - we leave the 'saving and rescuing' mode behind in favour of the desire to serve Divine Will.

The pineal and pituitary glands change shape, if headaches persist ask the Being's who are working with you to simply 'tone it down' for they don't feel pain, or ask them to release endorphin's - the brains natural opiate.

The brain is being activated - particularly the cerebrum, the 'sleeping giant'. Â Cranial expansion is common; triangular 'seed crystals' in the brow and recorder crystals in the right side of the brain are activated along with the 8th, 9th and 10th chakras.

We begin to be hooked into the languages of Light.

The pituitary and pineal glands are opened fully and work together to create the 'Arc of the Covenant', a rainbow light that arcs over the top of the head to the third eye that is a decoding mechanism for higher dimensional language.

You may find it hard to find words to express yourself as you may think in geometries and tones.

If confused do the unified chakra meditation and ask for messages to be decoded and translated.

Again you become much more aware of the vastness and multi-dimensionality of your nature, that you can be anything that you want to be, you cease to operate from obligation and relationships become transpersonal. You share words from your heart and soul and others may feel disorientated when dealing with you as they no longer have 'hooks' into you to link with.

You operate from a deep level of serenity with heightened sensitivity and awareness yet feel grounded and transformed. By this stage, it is possible to be sustained purely by Light and prana, to take no nourishment from the atmospheric realms and to be healthily sustained by the etheric.

9. Ninth level - decoding geometries and toning is easier, spirit is using the languages of light which shift the 6th dimensional blueprint into a new template for your 5th dimensional Lightbody.

Your body may change shape as the energy fields shift. Â You feel interconnected to all Being's everywhere and less connected to the opinions of others.

You release the desire for and the energy to sustain the 'game of separation and limitation' and feel truly free.

The 9th level sees a mass descension of the Lightbody into physical form.

As with the 3rd and 6th, this level sees a strong re-evaluation as we begin the final surrender to Spirit and we truly become the Divine instrument.

Here Spirit determines our income, our work, other being's in our lives, everything. Â This is the dissolution of the ego-self and while ecstatic, it can be most painful. Â Making the leap can be fearful even though we have evolved through eons of time to reach this point.

We may go back and forth, clinging to old comfort zones before completely letting go - there is no turning back and all must be released.

9th level is surrender and then ecstasy; the letting go of the "I" - we realize that while free will is real it is also an illusion as it only there to guide us and to empower us to be One with Spirit.

Survival fears leave - focus in on the Now at one-at-ment. Â Though fears may surface, they seem unreal and are easily put aside.

We tend to disconnect from consensus reality and our choices and reality seem unreal to others. From the 7th, 8th and 9th the inner light noticeably radiates out and by now you feel unbelievably grounded, connected, centered, filled with purpose and desiring only to serve.

For awhile you may slip between the 8th & 9th, from feeling complete at-one-ment to being ' a limited human being' again, this settles down by the end of the 9th level.

You then continually feel connected and operate from your final union and your intention and motivation is always for the highest, although others, due to their own inner triggers and issues, may not always choose to see that.

The 9th is where we begin to hook up to our I AM.

The last three levels unify all energy fields, all chakras are unified and you become totally connected to your I AM.

10. Tenth level - you are one with Source consciousness and know all is possible. Â DNA is no longer 2 strand but 12 strand; teleportation, manifestation etc. are instantaneous.

The Merkabah (another name for our Lightbody) has been built and allows you to pass through space, time and dimensions complete in your totality.

It has its own consciousness to be directed by you.

11. Eleventh level - all levels of the lightbody have been constructed and activated and are connected to your physical body via 'spin points'.

These light matrix's lie along the physical acupuncture meridians and are lines of light intersecting in beautiful geometries
- a new 5th dimensional circulatory system of Light.

Cellular regeneration has been accomplished.

Time is no longer linear but simultaneous - past, present and future co-exist - all exist in parallels.

There is no separation and you will fully manifest your vision of Heaven on Earth and express the ecstasy of Spirit.

In this 'frame' of conscious awareness many now access and create new types of Light based technologies, new community living, new systems of government and equitable food and resource distribution systems.

All have received specialist training and skills to help create and manifest the New World - the 'Golden Age'.

12. Twelfth level - the continuation of the Creation and implementation of the New World systems - hook up with other 12th level initiates who bring into existence new governments, new financial and educational systems, better system of food and resource allocation etc. as all will be redefined in the final stages of Earth's ascension so that all may exist in joy, equality and harmony.

By this time the planet and her inhabitants will have been 'rewoven' into Light to shine in their full glory as the final stages of this Divine Plan unfolds.

The planet goes to Light, shifts out of this dimension and is brought into a multi-star system where everyone is a lightbody and follows Spirit in total Mastery.



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